Stuff

What do we really want in life?  We think it's 'stuff', possessions, a bigger house, a newer car, a better job but what we all really want, is quite simply happiness.  All of the things that we want only actually give us a feeling.  When we get that new car we are so excited, we adore it, we feel proud everytime we walk up to it, but it doesn't last, soon it just becomes 'the car' again like the last one did. 

So why don't we just aim for the feeling of happiness, without the constant struggle to obtain 'more, bigger, better'.  If we can find that inner happiness then we are actually in the right vibrational alignment to actually attract all these lovely things we like.  There is nothing wrong with having nice things, it's when we 'need' them to feel happy to prove to the world that we are OK, we've made it, we're successful, then it's gone wrong.  We are all OK exactly as we are, right now, whether we have all the 'stuff' or not.  There is nothing to prove.  Take the pressure of yourself, relax a bit and enjoy life.  What anyone else thinks of you is none of your business, it really doesn't matter.  What you need to be concerned with is what you think of yourself, but not that ego opinion which one moment will tell you that you are great then the next moment it's knocking you down to the floor feeling unworthy.  Connect to the real you, that still quiet place inside of yourself.  This real you will always speak to you kindly, gently, lovingly, you will always be good enough.  What a relief, what a joy.  The battle and struggle is over.  All is well.  You really are good enough right now.  Enjoy the feeling, enjoy life, enjoy your 'stuff' but don't need it.

Bereavement

The pain of a loved one passing away can be excruciating.  I remember the morning my mum passed away, being shocked at the extent of this pain.  I remember making a decision there and then that I would get over this, I would do whatever it took to heal this pain, and I wasn't going to carry it around with me for the rest of my life.  She would want me to be happy again. 

I had just finished my training to be a Journey Therapist and thought this is the real challenge, put into practice what I learned.  No therapy can take away the grieving process, nor would it be right to, we need this to acknowledge the depth of love we felt for that person and to heal.  It just wouldn’t feel right to feel normal straight away.

I had learned that to heal and release pain we have to dare to really open into it.  Our natural instinct is to run from it, avoid it, keep busy, anything to stop us feeling it.  But if we stop resisting it, actually welcome it, and open into it, it can be a relief.  That running away can be as overwhelming as the pain itself.

So, as I lay in bed at 5am, after being up all night saying my farewells to my mum, I surrendered to the pain and I sobbed and wailed.  I few months later my husband actually mentioned that he was concerned that I probably woke the neighbours, but knowing I needed to do this, he said nothing at the time and hoped the neighbours would understand.

A few hours later I got up and realised we needed to go the supermarket, there was no food in.  I could have let my husband go, but I didn't want to be alone so I went with him.  Half way round the store the pain overwhelmed me and I sobbed in the aisle.  There was no one about and the moment passed again.  I managed to get through the checkout, but as I walked out of the store into the morning light, the pain and shock hit me again, even stronger.  As I pushed my shopping trolley I sobbed uncontrollably.  I became aware of people looking at me, very uncomfortably.  We have been taught as a nation to suppress our pain, hold it in, stiff upper lip, and don’t show yourself up.  As I dared to express my pain, I felt like it reminded people of their own suppressed pain that they hadn't dared to release.  I felt a sense of people looking at me as if I shouldn't be out, I should be hid away where no one could see me.  I felt sad about that too.

When at home I discovered if I dared to go right into the core of the pain, imagining myself stepping into it like a fire, and I stopped with it, eventually it disappeared and I was left with a deep feeling of peace.  Those feelings of peace were like a lifeline to me.  They may only have lasted a couple of hours, but 2 hours of peace were heaven to me, they gave me the strength to carry on and the knowledge that I could cope.

In a Journey process a client can be guided into their emotions and in a nurturing environment feel comfortable to open and release them, staying with whatever feelings come up until the wisdom and love within them takes them to that place of peace and stillness.  People often say they feel lighter after experiencing this, like a weight has been lifted from them.

Another part of the Journey process is what's called the 'campfire'.  At this campfire you get to express anything to anyone, whether they are alive or deceased.  It can be such a relief, all the things you never got to say, can be said.  It can feel very real and have a huge healing impact.

Fortunately during my training I had had endless 'campfires' with my mum and told her how much I loved her and I felt her love returned to me.  We weren't the sort of family that said 'I love you' so for me it was an opportunity to say those words.  When she died I felt like all my affairs were in order with her, we both understood the depth of love we had for each other even though it was never said in person.  

Even though I did this healing before my mum passed away, it can also be done afterwards, it is NEVER too late to heal those wounds.  It is possible to feel at peace about any relationship by healing it within.

As the first Christmas without my mum approached, I felt an overwhelming feeling of dread.  Then I read a book called 'Ask and it is given' by Esther and Jerry Hicks and it changed everything.  Basically it said stop thinking about anything you don't wont.  So I stopped thinking about dreading Christmas and focused on the present moment.  Christmas came and on Christmas morning the card with just dad's name on, triggered the tears, but they came, I felt the sadness, surrendered to it and it passed. I was amazed, I actually had a nice Christmas day and all I could think is that is what my mum would have wanted.  She always tried to make Christmas special for us as children and adults and she still managed to do it after she had gone. 

Time has passed now and I did heal those wounds and I did get over it.  I can feel her love within me always, perhaps in some ways even stronger than before.  I still sometimes feel sad, but that's OK.  I don't ache, I don't long, and I don't hurt.  Sad is OK, but most of the time I feel happy because I know that is what she always wanted for all of us.  So the greatest gift I can give to her is to be HAPPY.

With love to my mum.

How the Journey transformed this lady's life.

Journey therapy can connect you to the JOY of who you really are.

The Journey - Brandon Bays Q&A with Lynne McTaggart

This is Brandon Bays, creator of the Journey process talking to scientist Lynne McTaggart on inner healing

Talk at the Mind, Body, Spirit Event Grimsby Auditurium, Sunday 30th January - 1pm

I just wanted to share with you that I am doing a talk at the Mind, Body, Spirit event at Grimsby Auditurium on Sunday 30th January 2011 at 1pm.  I will be sharing some of the teachings of Journey Therapy, discussing the importance of forgiveness for ourselves, not the other person, giving a 5 minute meditation showing how simple it can be to find inner stillness, and my client, and now friend, Debbie Roe will be speaking about her personal experience over the last 10 months with Journey Therapy.

Look forward to seeing any of you that live locally there.  Please come and say "hi" to me on my stand.  I will be there Saturday and Sunday.

Happy New Year

Happy New Year to everyone.  The New Year is a great time to wipe the slate clean and start afresh.  Set positive goals and hold the vision of them within.  The wonderful Abraham Hicks teaches about being in 'The Vortex' to manifest all you desire.  To simplify the Vortex, to me, it means being in a happy, positive place.  Like attracts like, so to manifest positve things we need to be in a positive place.  So why not fake it until you make it.  Try and think of anything that will make you feel better, whatever is going on in your life.

If you want to be fit, healthy and slender, then don't think about how unfit, unhealthy and overweight you are, because if like attracts like, you are going to get more of the same.  Think about how great it will feel when you ARE fit, healthy and slender, walking down the street with a bounce in your step, doing the things you do with a lightness. 

Before you go to bed set the intention to sleep deeply and peacefully and wake up in the morning feeling refreshed and looking forward to the day ahead, ready to make positive choices during the day with great joy. 

As you wake up in the morning and still in that beautiful half awake, half asleep state, send positive energy ahead of you for the day.  Imagine it meeting you everywhere you go and with everyone you meet.  Imagine it being a really positive day whatever you are doing.  Joy within can be found anywhere, whatever you are doing.

During the day say positive affirmations to yourself, constantly programming your mind to stay in a positive place.  Examples are : I ......(name)....... am naturally healthy and slender, I easily maintain my ideal weight of ................   Today is a very happy day and I feel good.  I feel confident about my business suceeding.  Money comes from unexpected sources, I can trust the universe to provide for me.   You can make your own affirmations to suit whatever you are wanting to create/manifest in you life at any given time.

A little bit of effort in your thinking can have a HUGE impact on your life.  Go for it, give it a try and watch the transformation. 

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas to everyone.  Those of you living in the UK, I hope you are finding some joy in all the snow we have had.  I think of it as a purification.  The white everywhere you look brings brightness and great joy to me. No grey dull days, just white light.

Remember Christmas doesn't have to be about presents, it's about creating a celebratory time.  Save your money and have fun. 

Do the things you enjoy and let go of the things you don't.  If you like baking mince pies, do it with great joy and love, and if you don't, buy them from the supermarket.  Find a way of making Christmas happy for you, whether it's the traditional family Christmas or something totally different, dare to do it. 

If your memories of Christmas have been sad or unhappy, try now to create new memories.  You can't change the past but you can create a new past by making this Christmas happy for YOU.  Cut the cord to the past and make this new beginnings.

I hope you all find great joy over this festive period, in whatever way you choose.